Friday, December 6, 2019

Will You Achieve Your New Year Resolutions This Time?


The question I ask of anyone who will listen is : Do you believe that you can live your optimal life?

What does living your optimal life mean for you? I mean, if you could wave a magic wand and change your life so that everything fell into place what would that look like? What would your health be like? Your body? Your time? Your relationships, career/work, finances? What would those all be like if we were really allowing ourselves to dream into the realm of what we would truly, deeply, no holes barred, like to have show up in our lives?

I believe that we create our own lives by design. I believe that every single one of us is being constantly blessed. That we have a constant stream of well being flowing to us, but the reason we do not always see the things we want showing up in our existence is that we are not always allowing the awesomeness in. We are often not in the mode for receiving the things we are desiring and as a result we are often blocking our desires from coming to us and being a part of our every day life.

But what if we could allow more, be in greater alignment with who we truly are and be open to receiving all the bountiful blessings that are in store for us: financially, relationship wise, family, and yes even our health... What if we could truly allow the blessings in? Wouldn't we then be able to live our optimal lives on all subjects?

We have all heard about the power of positive thinking. We have heard "don't worry be happy!" We have all heard that it's better to be positive than to be negative and that more good comes that way, so most of us are OK with the path of thought i'm leading us down. With that in mind, I guess my question for us is: What if the key to allowing all the infinite blessings that are waiting for us to actually show up in our lives, is based in our thoughts and our ability to maintain positive thoughts and inner peace. What if the key is doing this even when things don't seem to be going the way we want? What if it is that simple? What do you think? Is it worth a try?

Let me say 3 things:

 1) Here's what positive thinking is not: it is not pretending to be positive about something that we do not feel positive about whatsoever. It's not putting a smile on your face when you don't feel it in your heart, that's just going to be a super duper waste of time, in my opinion!

2) How you feel is how you feel. It's not right, it's not bad, it just is. Don't ever beat yourself up because of how you are feeling. From my point of view, that's counterproductive. 

3) If you are in the depths of despair, it might not be easy or might not even be possible to go in one moment from despair to ecstatic joy. Look it's probably possible, but I've for sure never been able to do that... yet. It might instead be a better idea to do this experiment:

So here's the experiment: It's based on a book called "Ask and it is given," by Esther Hicks. Esther she says she is channeling a being named Abraham. I find that weird, but if you can get past the weirdness of it and hear the message, awesome!

I really like Esther. She lists 22 emotions in order of their ability to manifest the positive things into our existence. Here's a picture of the list that I keep on my desk in my office. I'm not saying this is an absolute list, but I like Esther, I like the list and I find it useful. Always keep in mind that these things are just guides so don't take it too seriously! Play with it!

And what the work is is this: 

-Look at the things you want to achieve, perhaps start with one that you feel particular negative emotion about.

-Look at the list of emotions and kind of see where you fall on the list. Are you despairing the situation? Do you feel more angry about it or maybe frustration is closer to what is going on for you?

-Whatever it is, let's start there and spend some time journaling about how you are feeling and what it would feel like if you were to reach for a SLIGHTLY higher energy emotion. (one that is a little higher on the list.)

-Once you've done your journaling exercise for the day, try to stay off the topic in your mind. If it pops up, change the subject in your mind to something else that fills you with joy. (Kittens, bunnies, puppies and babies do it for me every time😊 )

-On the next day you sit to journal on the topic repeat the process. Tune in to how you are feeling on the topic and then reach for the next accessible higher energy emotion.

-The intention is to train us to keep reaching for the next thought that feels a bit better than the one we are currently thinking. It's not the easiest thing to do but with practice it's doable and 100% worth it!

I'd love to get some feedback on what you are thinking about this and if you do try the experiment how it is going for you! Want to share how your experiment is going? Do post below. 

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